Minding my own God lessons

"Minding my own God Lessons"
by Darla Gonzalez
August 20, 2015


A couple years ago I was convinced  by our Music Director, Sherry, to sing in our churches Easter Cantata.  This cantata has happened every Palm Sunday for 40 years!!  I explained to our optimistic music director she "had not heard me sing" but she was determined to get me into that choir.  I was enticed.   My mind was twirling with excitement and fear all at the same time.  I loved to sing but I was petrified to sing in front of anyone or in any place where someone could hear me, with the exception of my young son and daughter.  I loved singing though and I thought anyone who sang worship music for a living had really "arrived" in the world.  How lucky were they?!  I liked to sing at loud worship churches so I could sing at the top of my voice and nobody could hear me but God.  But, in our church, that wasn't the case.  People could hear you and what if they turned around and gave you the "look".  You know the one I'm talking about!

One thing about myself, I don't like to give into fear.  Once I realize it's controlling me, I will do things afraid.  I do it all the time, I do things afraid!  So, because she invited and because I  secretly love to sing and because I won't let the enemy win,  I relented.   I went to every single one of those rehearsals with sweaty hands and the most crazy negative thoughts!  I was a nervous wreck.  Sitting on one side of me was an 80 year old very "assertive" church member (who was not afraid to speak her mind!!) and the other was probably the best vocal singer in our choir!  How was I suppose to blend into those around me?  Every time I sang I had these thoughts  someone was going to complain to our music director for allowing me to sit and sing with them.  Seriously, this went on for 10 different rehearsals, maybe even more!   But I'm an eager student, I love to learn and I was very diligent.  When our music director would say, "mark this part with your pencil" or give us direction on a vowel, I was writing it down!!  I think I was the only person in that choir with a pencil.  I was focused on my Soprano part and no other!!  Sherry kept telling me, "I can't hear you so you are blending, that's good".  Okay I thought.  I'm blending!  I can do this!  I can do this afraid!  

My fear of singing in front of people was even beyond liquid courage helping me!  Yes, not even large amounts of alcohol would give me courage to sing karaoke.  Whatever my high school choir teacher said to me all those years ago, I allowed it to sink deep into the recesses of my fears.  I set out to intentionally "break this chain" that kept me from doing what I loved to do....sing!

While in the car, I had the CD with all the music on it and I would play the songs over and over and sing in front of my daughter.  Cassi, my daughter,  would encourage me along.  If I was awful, my daughter would tell me the truth.  My husband and son wouldn't, but my pact with my daughter was to speak the truth even if it hurts!   Besides,my daughter identified herself as a singer (at 9 years old) and, of course, an authority on good singing voices.   So, she had to be right - I can do this!  

The day came and it was showtime. It was Palm Sunday and people from other churches even came to our worship to hear our Passion Cantata.  Everyone was in their seats. My palms were sweaty and yet I was excited as well.  We sang, we sang our hearts out and we sang along with the Orchestra and a beautiful dancer.  We did this for all three worship services.  I'm told it was beautiful.  I hit the notes!  I didn't fall out of my chair.  Nobody rolled their eyes, in fact, I saw tears (unless I made them cry).  People told us it was the best performance they'd seen in 20 years!  Wow!!!  The holy spirit moved people through our voices.  Later, when I heard the recording of the Cantata, I was moved emotionally and stunned at the overall performance.

I started thinking about how, with God's help, I was overcoming my fears!  Yay God!

God had a bigger plan

I had an Epiphany that Sunday.  I major break through! Not only did I break my fears of singing in front of people (that was really a bonus) but I learned a valuable life lesson.

My Epiphany

I learned how important it was to know what my "role" was in life and the value it lends to those around me.  My role in this Cantata was the soprano line and no other.  I didn't focus on how well tenors, altos or bases were singing.  I didn't pay attention to the strings in the orchestra, the brass or the pianist.  I was focused on what my PART was in this whole ensemble of artists.  What a moment I had when I saw this bigger picture.

Translation

What was God was telling me?  He was telling me I need to focus on what God is asking ME to do not what He is asking others to do.  I call this "minding my own God lesson" now.  This has helped me define my role as the administrator at the church I work at, the role of being a wife, a mom and a servant and a friend.  God needs us to mind our "roles" and be the best in those roles so that the whole "ensemble" produces a beautiful masterpiece.  

"Now you are the body of Christ, and each one of you is a part of it."

We each have a part and if we focus with diligence, eagerness to learn and with encouragement (and sometimes out of sheer obedience) and let others learn their God lessons (in other words, mind our own God business), God will be able to make his masterpiece - the body of Christ!  And guess what ---peace will come into our hearts and we will stop being distracted by what others are doing or not doing.  PEACE WILL COME!!

I think you can apply this principle to just about every relationship and environment.  Your spouse has God lessons, your kids have God lessons, your co-workers, boss and friends have God lessons. The lesson for me was to be good at my role so that I could be of value to those around me which in turn helps them learn their role and their lesson.  This isn't about being self-centered, this is about being aware of your own challenges and not getting distracted by others.  What is God trying to teach me, that's the question we all want to be asking ourselves each day.

Prayer

God, I'm sorry for minding everybody else's God lesson and not being intentional about learning my own.  I'm thankful for your many chances for me to learn lessons, including this one!  Help me to be identify the role you want, the value you want, me to play in those around me and to accept those around me as they learn their own lessons.  Thank you that I'm a part of your masterpiece!  In Jesus' name, Amen.